Today is a day, when failed and dysfunctional family relationships rears it's ugly head.
Christmas plans.
It has been almost 3 years since I endured the last hissy fit from my Sister in law from Hell.
Although part of me wants to go in gratuitous, nasty detail
about what a piece of work this woman is, I won't.
It is not good for my soul.
What is good for my soul, however, is my decision to be done with her.
And sticking by it.
My Mother in law, (sweet but ditsy, kind of like Edith Bunker, only really religious) is trying for a great big Christmas get together, because all the kids and their families will be in the same place at the same time.
We won't be there.
They are welcome in our home, anytime.
Except her.
Each of the adults in my family came to their own decisions about being done with her, but because I was the vocal one, it is being laid at my feet......
the whole family will not be together because of me.
And I feel tugged towards doing something that I know will not be good for me, and guilty that if I just bit the bullet I could do it.
For family harmony.
But I am not going to.
About Me
- Hope
- I am a woman who is content with herself and her life, but believe that each day brings new possibilities and opportunities that I intend to be open to. I am an intuative person who does not always listen to herself.
9 comments:
Stick to your guns Hope and try not to feel guilty. We cut off my husband's parents over 14 years ago and, even though it was his decision, I am sure that I get all the blame. Who cares? I can be the bitch if it means my family is safe and happy.
Hey I know how that can be my family alway's drive's me crazy around that time of year ,but I also know what its' like to be around someone that you can't stand just to keep the family peace. Just do what will make you feel good on the enside.
the other Hope.
Oh I would stick to your guns! Okay so I would end up caving most likely.... thankfully you are not me. lol Know I totally relate.
Blessings my friend.
I agree. Dont cave.
Your weather pixie looks cold tonight!
I think you do a good job of maintaining peace in your life..better than I do anyway. Stay in your healthy environment and don't cave.
Yup, I'm sure your reasoning is solid, so don't let anybody make you feel guilty!
harmony at xmas is there such a thing i dont think so ;) with you all the way
You've done the right thing. If the rest cave they will have a nasty Christmas.
Hugs
I can relate to this post. I also have family members who I will not see under any circumstances.
It is always best to do what feels right for YOU.
~Deb
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